Women, in relationships will have sex peaks and valleys no matter how much you love each other. During one of those droughts, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut or resort to “solo time.”
But first, let’s get that steam going. What is the most effective method? It’s as simple as trying harder (and maybe test out some new sex positions).
Maintain a fun and pleasurable environment for both of you — both in and out of the bedroom — and your relationship may just reach new heights.
Take Note Of Her Nonverbal Cues
Unfortunately, many men do not understand how to tune into their female lovers. “I hear stories all the time about how men simply do not respond to the signals that women send.” “Learn to be a responsive, tuned-in lover, and you will receive serious appreciation from your partner(s),” says Pella Weisman, a dating coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
Pay attention to their bodily cues (moaning, heavier breathing, increased lubrication) as well as their verbal expression, and do more of that.
If you’re unsure how to interpret a signal, ask directly.
“Try asking yourself, ‘Does that feel good?’ or ‘Do you like that?’ or ‘Does that hurt?’ “Your partner may have been too shy to tell you and will appreciate the fact that you inquired,” Weisman says.
Foreplay And After play
While some men believe that sex is primarily about penetration, women requires both foreplay and after play. “A woman will often feel abandoned if a guy turns over and dozes off,” says Dr. Gilda Carle, relationship expert and author of 8 Tips to Understand the Opposite Sex.
“A woman wants the foreplay to begin way before the act of intercourse, with flirting, texts with sexual innuendos, and more to warm her up,” the author adds.
For a woman, sex is more than just sex; it is a physical and emotional reflection of her desire.
Explore Overlooked Areas
A woman wants a man to use his fingers to explore her insides and outsides, making it an adventure for the two of them. “‘Let’s see if I can find your G-spot,’ for example, could be a joint exploration for the couple,” Dr. Gilda says.
Be sure to fondle and kiss her inner thigh, ear, and even her lower back, which are often overlooked erogenous zones.
Dirty Talk
Women want to be desired. “They want to know how and why they are turning you on.” “They want to feel hot, desired, appreciated, and honored,” Weisman says.
Individual preferences differ (dirty, descriptive, romantic), but experiment with different types to see what elicits the best response from your partner.
Clitoral Stimulation
Yes, gentlemen, women want more of it. “Some women prefer it with a finger (or three) in her buttocks or vagina at the same time.” “You can also try strong sucking, teasing with your tongue, or applying pressure to the clitoral area with your nose and forehead,” Weisman says.
Try different pressures, rhythms, and durations to see what she prefers (for many women, direct contact on the clitoris is too intense, but they may prefer rhythmic pressure on the clitoral shaft — the part of a woman’s clitoris that swells when she’s aroused).
Make Her Feel Pretty
It’s not just when you’re naked. Try saying, “You’re beautiful!” for no reason at all. “Unless you’re talking to Angelina Jolie, we all have one phrase in common that we can never get enough of: ‘you’re so beautiful!'” says Wendy Newman, author of 121 First Dates.
Women enjoy surprises, especially sexy ones. “Surprising your girlfriend or wife with something that shows you care about her while also demonstrating how sexy you think she is can win you major points,” Amy Grey, a lingerie specialist, says. Knee high socks, a silk robe, or a racy nightgown are some alternatives to lingerie.
When a woman knows you bought something for her while picturing how hot she’d look in it, it may inspire her to be a little more daring the next time she’s out shopping for naughty underwear.
Alternatively, consider giving her a sensual shared activity, such as a couples massage or passes to hot yoga to enjoy together.
Pay Attention Outside Sex, Too
Women enjoy surprises, especially sexy ones. “Surprising your girlfriend or wife with something that shows you care about her while also demonstrating how sexy you think she is can win you major points,” Amy Grey, a lingerie specialist, says.
Knee high socks, a silk robe, or a racy nightgown are some alternatives to lingerie.
When a woman knows you bought something for her while picturing how hot she’d look in it, it may inspire her to be a little more daring the next time she’s out shopping for naughty underwear.
Alternatively, consider giving her a sensual shared activity, such as a couples massage or passes to hot yoga to enjoy together.